It’s all fun and games until someone ends up in a cone
Over the past few months, I’ve had a handful of ‘crises’ to handle that seemed to pile one on top of another. But that’s how it goes right? When we feel we can’t handle any more, we are faced with another situation to do just that — handle it. And we get through it. Breath by breath, I realized that as each moment passed, I was one more moment through the chaos.
Most recently, my 9 year old dog, Hattie, tore her ACL. This is the second in two years that required invasive surgery with a long rehabilitation. I’d heard that there’s a very good chance that a dog who tears one ACL will tear the other within a year or so. Ironically, I did everything I could to protect her from exactly the situation we’re in now. What I’ve learned, though, is that Hattie doesn’t think about the previous surgery or what the future holds. She just knows what’s happening now; she adjusts her gait; she rests; and she faces the moment with whatever adjustments need to be made — without thought.
Dogs are our ultimate yoga teachers. If only we could all learn to take each moment wag by wag.
If you haven’t seen this TED video talk by Amy Purdy who lost her legs and went on to become a professional snowboarder, grab some tissues and get ready to rethink the limits you tell yourself you have.
Every once in a while I like to take a moment and write from a place of humor and humility. So in today’s post, rather than waxing prophetic, poetic or prosaic, I thought I’d take you enjoy a glimpse into my humorous self discovery. Here are 40 hilarious & human observations about rounding the bend and why I’m embracing life with all of it’s cruel jokes, humor and beauty.
I can no longer sit OR stand for two long, I’ve become a hovering nomad
I still get to enjoy the occasional zit AND count the burgeoning crows feet
I never thought the words “stool softener” would be part of my vernacular
At 35 I woke up and my pert round butt was were my flat abs used to be and my flat abs were in back, I’ve since begun to turn them back around
I get more comfortable in my skin each and everyday
I don’t care how crazy people think I am, in fact the further from “normal” I appear the better
I know who my friends are
Almost everything makes me laugh, and if it doesn’t I can find humor in it tout de suite
I get cold at 70 degrees and hot at 70 degrees depending on the day or hour
I truly enjoy cooking and baking every Sunday, and making enough for 10 people should anyone ever stop by hungry
I love to play Scrabble on Friday nights with my 70 year old neighbor, she’s like a second grandma to me but also a true friend
I was never supposed to be here this long, and for that I’m grateful each and every day
I have the ability to be in a complete panic and yet remain calm & strong enough to move forward
The little things that set me off can be the same little things that I find funny 30 second later
I no longer to succumb to peer pressure about anything, in fact, I find myself digging my heels in to resist if said pressure is attempted
I don’t have to make excuses to go to bed early, I’m 40
I’ve not only accepted my own quirks, I admire them fondly and wear them proudly
I drink hot tea all the time
I now order my meals at restaurants like Meg Ryan in ‘When Harry Met Sally’
A night of dancing at the ‘club’ now feels like running a marathon in cement shoes. There should be drink stands and free chair massages.
No matter what, I cry when I see someone else cry
I love my dogs like other people love their children
I now understand what my mother meant when she would say the phrase, “You just wait. You’ll see…”
My heart breaks when I see suffering and wells up when I see random acts of kindness
My first 20 or so years as an independent adult, I accumulated. Now, I try to lessen
Parts that I didn’t know I had just hurt for no reason sometimes
Some days I feel like an 85 year old teenager
I can literally sit outside for hours doing nothing
Gardening shuts off my brain
Some days my mind is completely still and others in never shuts up
I read food ingredient and nutrition panels like I’m studying for the SAT
I realize that I’ve been masquerading as an extroverted introvert for much of my life
I still learn something new everyday, and I’m wondering if it’s because I used to know it but have since forgotten
No matter how old I get I will never be able to remove a dead rodent from my own home
I buy my shoes and clothes for comfort over style, but hope I have both
Life just isn’t that serious
‘Sleeping in’ on the weekends is 7:30 or 8:00
No matter what time I sent my alarm for, my body wants to get up a half hour later
I still need to learn to apologize less and forgive myself more
Laughter really is the best medicine, and I’m a great subject. Nobody laughs at me harder than me
What have you learned about yourself in your hears on this planet?
Have you ever caught yourself being more compassionate than you thought capable? If there are people near you right now, look around and take note of any feelings or emotions that arise. Do you feel irritated, amused, loved, angry, happy, empathetic, unimpressed, or maybe something else?
I recently flew home for the holidays from the busiest airport in the world. While there were flecks of a short temper that wanted to rear itself, I found myself more often trying to empathize with all of the people that make up the holiday hustle and bustle. We all had the same goal: to get home and see our families. And, we all had similar challenges: reassemble ourselves after the security check; find our seats on the plane; stow our carry ons; wait to deplane. I was tired and irritable, but when I looked around I saw a mix of emotions. I saw some people who looked like I felt, and I softened. I realized that we’re all in this together and that extending a little compassion goes a long way.
It’s easy to cast our frustrations onto someone or something else rather than sit with them, but OUR frustrations rarely have anything to do with the person with whom we’re frustrated. In fact, when you put your irritability and ego out into the world, that tends to be what you receive. Conversely, when you extend kindness, you get kindness. It’s really as simple as that. So why is it so hard?
Let’s let that go. It doesn’t have to be hard. The next time you find yourself rearing up for battle, do the opposite and see what happens. Look through a lense of love.
At times like this, it’s hard for me to make sense out of the violence and suffering that occur in the world. I talk often about acceptance and awareness, and yet here I sit, a hypocrite, finding it near impossible to reconcile or make peace with what has happened this past week. But, I think what helps me avoid getting stuck in a glut of anger is realizing that acceptance doesn’t necessarily mean endorsement.
In 2012 there have been more than 50 mass shootings in the U.S., the most recent at a Connecticut school that left 27 people are dead, including 18 children. As I type the words, it’s hard for me to digest. I truly have no words.
Although I’ve never met him, one of my most beloved teachers is Eckhart Tolle. His words tranformed me when I was in a not-so-awesome place. I thought this video on dissolving suffering was poignant. It’s not about mass violence, but the message on transmuting suffering into peace is worth watching.
“I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent.”
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